I don't need them........ maybe your life will be better from now on....... so you came to a site's article looking at why women are unhappy with marriage and divorce the men who are making them miserable, to promote your independence of women...uh huh. Then years passed and I didn't see her for a while. But my friends would never even think of leaving their wives because men are usually loyal and have character. There have been a few opposite types of stories regarding men, but not too many. I ask any guy "Do you know one woman who you would have as a friend"? then why are you even commenting here? Unfortunately, most divorce settlements fail to account for the damaged future earning potential of a woman with child care responsibilities. i have this same argument with my dad all the time. Women suffering most as divorce cases go up. Both sides go through a lot. My friend was recently telling me that Halle Berry (the actress) has to pay her ex-boyfriend who was a top male model at one time. Plus: a new survey on women, divorce and money. This board is still going after a few years. On the other hand, men who provided more than 80% of a family’s income before a divorce do not suffer as much financial loss, and may even marginally improve their financial situation. When a Family Breaks Up: Divorce and Separation . so the woman's attraction level is irrelevant? not all women are like that! Women file divorce or cause divorce at least 80% of the time. It's not an "either/or" world we live in. Although I am very anxious to put the need for representation behind me; I am confident that your team will not only assist me in putting this behind me, but should I ever need legal help again I know where to start my search. OH that's right, soap operas, romance novels, AOL, Facebook(later) her sister, mom. here is the thing: a woman cleans her home, cooks her food, has a career, has a decent social circle, keeps her body up. Like my one friend's daughter been out of work with a "degree" that HE paid for and is bumming money off of him because "she can't find a job" ! They just don't admit it to themselves. She's single, no kids like me, in her mid 50s and she exercises too. In short, the woman is always right and the man is always wrong. Almost EVERY ONE!!!! No financial risk for women to get married so they push for it with understanding if it doesn't work out then they get a financial windfall. Unlike women always shopping for something new and better. On the other hand, the man is more likely to report feeling troubled by his wife’s dissatisfaction, but pretty much “OK” with the way things are; he's content to just lope along as time passes. And, the story suggests that many women do not want to go through the increased care obligations and reduced freedom that marriage entails. women have more body fat, scientific fact so yes they do have to work harder to keep it down otherwise it can get out of control and lets be honest, overweight is not appealing. You're in the wrong forum if you think you can get away with saying something so mind-numbingly stupid without being asked to name at least a couple of those "hundreds of (non-existent) studies. Women have 2/3 of student loan debt, want children, a career and the government to bail them out. Women look for problems... if the marriage doesn't live up to what they see on tv, Facebook, etc. But go to any workplace and the women are the ones and having all of the problems with each other. He lost nothing, if he had said most women, in your mind he still would have lost the argument. It also concerns about other statutory causes arising after the separation. You gave me wonderful advice and support. Sperm banks are booming. In contrast, women and men in non-marital relationships reported equal levels of relationship quality. Or maybe it's that men have a hard time making commitments while women have a hard time keeping them. But many kids seem to bounce back. First of all, you pretty much lose a debate as soon as you say "Women always..." or "Men always..." anything. The STDs, multiple babbies from multiple babbydaddies, welfare, no makeup face, bare legged crap, 56% of the females in the US are OBESE! I have a relative who loves to call women "little fatties." If the wife was the primary wage earner and the husband stayed home and kept the house and cared for the children, the husband would then be forced to find employment while the wife would have to find and pay for child care. Number 4 - Germany Kind of earthy, didn't wear or need heavy makeup. my life has been only getting better and better, it would have been much more miserable had i stayed. According to some studies, it is also a potential risk factor for suicidal behavior. So all your Psycho babble isn't going to bring men back to the wedding chapel. In more traditional households where the woman has put her career on hold to stay home and raise children, her standard of living will likely be significantly reduced after a divorce. Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from Psychology Today. ", "Patrick Slaughter is an amazing attorney. Too much craziness in the world. Her skin just looks smooth, healthy and glowing, like she just exfoliated. Tl;dr you have nothing to worry about unless your wife cooks and cleans for you. Katie, A lot of men are fine while they have youth and are vibrant. 1 decade ago. Whether a man or a woman fares better after divorce depends on several factors. A senior woman I know always reminded me of a movie star. It is no secret that very few walk away happy with the terms of a divorce. I've seen these two problems change men almost overnight. Why is it "men are always happier and healthier" married than not? They get all the breaks and passes' This exactly! Looking old may not bother a lot of the men here, but I know something that does: Prostate problems and ED. I've noticed people talk about aging well more when someone was good looking. I know many females with "degrees" that don't make squat! Not skinny, but not fat. I had no idea that men fall faster and deeper in love with women. Since men don’t take the time to grieve correctly, they don’t want … At the Law Offices of LaFevor & Slaughter, our clients benefit from our knowledge and experience throughout the divorce process. 'Women work outside of the home in large numbers but how many are then expected to come home and do all of the domestic work?' It is a different story if my gender received accolades for receiving monetary settlements for poor behaviors. "A lot of men are fine while they have youth and are vibrant. 2015; Smock 1994) and standard of living (Bianchi et al. The gig is up. Peace out! Looking for an immigration or divorce lawyer near me? There is no need to earn as much. Without your help, this court matter would have been more stressful and more expensive. Many men once ran through the family court system feel completely violated. Half of my friends wives look like they are their mom. Both sides suffer. With all the support from all them men that worked all those years and all the special interest from society? ", "I told Mr. They have no idea what selfish, manipulative babies they are. According to a recent study from the Journal of Men's Health, divorced men are more susceptible to heart disease, high blood pressure, and strokes than married men are — in addition to being 39 percent more likely to commit suicide and engage in risky behavior. men are not catching up . Anyway, they were never married. Let them rot!!!! Surprisingly though Italy has one of the lowest divorce rates so either they are very discreet or it is a widely accepted part of Italian life. They want stories to brag to their friends to make them jealous. I really appreciate your efforts and the time you spend with me making my problem go easier. No. These comments are making me laugh so hard I'm physically crying. A new theory aims to make sense of it all. Men usually get more of their assets taken from them and lose most custody of the children (if … nothing? Also, did your wife work during the marriage? Why do so many women feel stifled by marriage instead of supported? survey of over 2000 heterosexual couples, Three Pandemic Lessons for Rethinking Mental Health, Why Marital Satisfaction Is Closely Linked to Women’s Sexual Desire, 13 Essential Tips if You Are Divorcing a Narcissist. Men suffer more. 'more women get advanced degrees and are earning more than their male counterparts.'. The concept of marriage has changed. All the while complaining about not getting 'equal pay'. Women initiate divorce because they are allowed to keep half or more of their husbands asset. Copyright Law Offices of LaFevor & Slaughter | All Rights Reserved | Sitemap, "Thanks for doing a great job. The kids who suffer most at separation This is just a quick post but it has a message about how important it is to take care of our children, the most precious asset of all. If the shoe was on the other foot just what perspective would you take? That's what I've seen. Still, there are some responses to divorce that can be divided along gender lines. But the men don't measure up??? BOO HOO. if you really think women are so money hungry, why dont u just forget about them entirely? Again I reiterate WHAT APPEARNCE? men just focus on a woman's appearance and go after the hottest woman they see, not caring if she is not attracted to them. Open mobile menu. This is my first time ever needing legal representation, and I must confess the thought of having to require such legal assistance has always been a scary thing to me. An article in Psychology Today reports that men crave relationships and marriage as much as women. Women cope with divorce better than men even though they suffer more financially. Women can not find a man after they went to college and want children in their 30's-40's. I had been seeing online where many men were complaining about women seeking most of the divorces. Dreams have been described as dress rehearsals for real life, opportunities to gratify wishes, and a form of nocturnal therapy. I think younger women might push for marriage a bit more relative to younger men, but in the older crowd (I am 57 and husband 68) it seems the men push a bit more for marriage. nope. Peace-out. They're looking toward death. Society just puts more pressure on women to look perpetually 25 -30 years old. Women cannot be equal to men just as men cannot be equal to women. This is a simplistic and irrational way of looking at human behavior, which is greatly varied. ", "I am unable to come up with enough adjectives to describe what a great job you did. Financial Distress. is that woman so unusual? Meanwhile all my friends that are single are mostly in shape (the gym/activity), have money. That becomes the most important thing to them. Could it be that men are being discriminated against at college, or is it that we have such poor union controlled public schools that a degree is necessary for a job that a person could fill without one 30 years ago? As far as the degrees, WHO PAID FOR THEM???? Who suffers more from divorce: men or women? And with half of the man's assets. Why doesn't the government audit all these money grubbing females? We'd be permitted to have some bags under our eyes and a little paunch to our bellies. It protects their skin from ageing. Directed by Enzo Doria. Suite 1704 The sad thing is the kids are usually the ones who suffer the most...nevermind the parents...so the kids need to be kept safe and isolated from the breakup and not dragged into it, used as pawns or weapons for one side to get what they want. Divorce represents a significant loss. I Lost My Job. Your knowledge of the law is superb and I appreciate your wisdom in knowing how best to implement the laws in our judicial system in order to achieve the best outcome for everyone. All for empty promises, loneliness, abandonment, being broke, alienated from his children? They get used to changes in their daily routines … but most of the men are generally falling in some category of 'undesirable'. Michael Rosenfeld, an associate professor of sociology at Stanford University said, “Women seem to have a predominant role in initiating divorces in the U.S. as far back as there is data from a variety of sources, back to the 1940s.” Some researchers theorize that the societal norms that make traditional heterosexual marriage an unfair arrangement do not appeal to women once they realize that their earnings and career trajectories may suffer once they marry and have children. Now men do not want to get married. You are paying her, but are you poor because of it? Couples With Supportive Friends, Kin May Be More Likely to Divorce, A Surprise Twist: The Pandemic Brings Some Couples Closer, Psychology Today © 2021 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Why Some Bipolar Disorder Patients Are Lithium Non-Responders, AI Deep Learning Finds Off-Label Uses for FDA-Approved Drugs, 5 Recent Findings About Dark Personalities. Speaking from experience my ex was awarded full custody and 75% of assets along with 7 years alimony & child support that equaled 1/2 of my take home pay. Big friggin deal! more women get advanced degrees and are earning more than their male counterparts. not too many blood pressure issues, HAVE SEX (with significantly younger women), look younger, enjoy life (fishing, hunting, chasing women, etc) and don't have to worry about losing all the stuff divorcing some shrew that wants to "cash out" because "she's not haaaaaaappy" . Whether you are the party who initiated the divorce, or the one surprised by it, each party suffers the same losses, but men and women tend to process their sense of loss in different ways. Her earning potential is far greater than mine, yet I pay her $24K a year. Heard this story countless times also! We could go bald. You lose. The home of the Roman Catholic church does make it a nation that would frown on divorce however so perhaps this plays a large part in that fact. Divorce or separation, in particular, increases one's risk of distressful psychological symptoms. Deciding to divorce or separate is a difficult decision for parents. actually no . It's hysterical because he still makes those comments about women and he now has a big basketball sitting in his belly. Imo, Japanese women do not age very well and they are also usually super thin which unfortunately gives them a lot of osteoporosis. They weren't together for very long either. I suspect that it may be due to the changing work landscape. Most likely, 75% of the attractive women that men THINK are in their 30s are probably really in their 40s. A 600 lb women can have a boyfriend and half of all married women admit to having a backup man in waiting. And in a man's obsession with always being right, you're going to obsess over how wrong a man with actual degrees in this area must be. "You could be like Steven Hawking's sitting in a chair talking through a computer, My body is wore out from doing hard physical labor". What did the piece of crap do with all that money? Digging for money now. The reason older men want to get married is to have a carer in later life. what is it that you actually need women for? In fact, I have yet to see a black woman with the dreaded "turkey neck" that causes women to get a "Lifestyle Lift" procedure. Men and women complemented each other at one time. That is the difference in skin and I read an article about it. They are self absorbed, babies, not fun to hang around with. I seriously doubt that situation would be humorous to you. Men Rush Into New Relationships. The truth is, divorce affects all members of a family, but it can affect children and adolescents in specific ways based on their ages. I've met and seen attractive black women again and again who have no wrinkles at all in their faces. If you look at "statistics" Men gain substantially more weight, their testosterone plummets (notice all the supplement adds maybe) their blood pressure skyrockets, have "ED" problems, no money, and many other issues that don't come to mind right now. It seems God didn't just give women negative things to deal with. Katie.......... thank you for that info. Nicely shaped. Men are "Allowed" to age, which doesn't mean they actually age any better. It is only in the past 50 years women are in the general work force. ", Understanding the Divorce Process in Tennessee, Mediation and Settlement in the Divorce Process, Determining Your Roles in the Parenting Process During a Divorce, men are more likely to remarry than women, Everything You Need to Know About Military Divorce in TN. It is a myth that divorce affects one age group more profoundly than others. Each party must reinvent a new identity and face life in a wholly different way, and that can be stressful. When the piece of crap I married (TWENTY FIVE YEARS 25!!!!) They probably resent you. Peace-out! I would expect any woman to have the same point of view as you. so what prize and cash did i get? Anecdotally speaking (as my own experience and some of people I know so not statistically relevant), I pushed for marriage in my 20's, but in my 50's my second spouse (I was single for 20 years after divorce in my twenties) my current spouse was the one who pushed for very quickly (he had been divorce for two years). Husbands still expect their wives to do the bulk of the housework and the bulk of the childcare. maybe that worked in the past , not now. Generally: Men who provide less than 80% of a family’s income before the divorce suffer the most. Maybe their testosterone levels make them have that stronger "drive" and more intense feelings. Women work outside of the home in large numbers but how many are then expected to come home and do all of the domestic work? Virtually EVERY guy I know is glad that the shrews are out of their lives. Unless there was abuse involved, the kids suffer most from divorce. I believe I described him best when we parted company after our first meeting and I could not help but tell him that he was a bucket full of wonderful. Divorced women have mostly fallen victim to economic marginalisation. Women initiate more divorces because there is cash and prizes waiting for them at the end of the divorce rainbow. In addition, men may find it more difficult to seek support after a split. The study, based on a survey of over 2000 heterosexual couples, found that women initiated nearly 70 percent of all divorces. Marriage not living up to expectations. Men can now have a legal private marriage and not allow for the hypergamy and legal system to be out of control. • Since 1997 average age of divorce has risen from 40.2 to 43.7 years for men and from 37.7 to 41.2 years for women, partly due to the rise in age at marriage. Filipinos also tend to have fuller pie-like faces and they put on more weight, which can help women look younger in their faces. Good god, with your attitude and the attitudes of some of the other males on this forum I can see why your marriages failed. Older women: marry who they can. Our skin could look wrinkled and rough as sandpaper and people would say we had "character to our faces." But the end comes for us all. 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